Creating
Your
Destiny
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Who You Want to be & How to Get There
W
ho
do you really wish to become?
What sort
of behaviors/patterns do you really wish to learn? What skills would you
love to master? Start choosing. Now.
The
Process
Some
people have difficulty choosing other directions than the ones they have
been going in because they never replaced the old patterns with learning
new ones. Or, they chose to learn new patterns that were not
all that motivating for them.
Choosing
to stop behaving in a certain way is insufficient.
It lacks the answer to the question, "Where to, now?" And if
the "where to" does not capture your imagination, does not grab
your heart and mind, you may very will return to the old ways, the old
habits, the old patterns.
Get a pencil and paper-or sit down at your computer. Start describing in as vivid as details as possible who you wish to become. Start with three months from right now. What will you be doing? How will you be behaving? Be specific. What will other people hear, see, feel, smell when are around you?
How
will you be experiencing life differently from your present experience?
(Do not write about what you will not be doing or not
be feeling.) Who WILL you be becoming? What WILL
you be doing and experiencing? Do the same thing for 1 year
from now and 5 years from now and 10 years from now. Put as much content
as possible into this.
Next.
What do you need to do so as to m
ake
these changes? Specifically. Write down everything that comes
to mind. Keep writing. When you have finished, write some more. What
are the actual steps that you will want to take to insure your progress?
Once you have completed your "how-to-get-there" list, place
the steps in some sort of order of importance. "I will do this today.
I will do that by next Friday. I will do this, next month."
Now. Ask
yourself this. "What resources do I possess
that will serve me here?" Then, "What
will I need that I do not as yet have that will serve me in this part
of my Quest?" Allow me to make a few suggestions.
Do
you need a new set of friends? Surround yourself with people
who inspire you, with people whose behaviors you wish to model (pattern).
Hang out with people who are wiser than you are.
Do
you need a coach? Do you need someone who will help you make
the changes you are committing to making? Do you need some trusted people
wi
th
whom you can form an accountability group: a place where you can say,
"These are my goals, my commitments and my time frames-hold me accountable"?
Do
you need more information about the choices that are available to you?
Are you presently stuck in the limiting belief that you only have 1 or
2 choices? Some people do not yet see all the possibilities that are available
in this life and do not see how many choices that they can create for
themselves. Hanging out with successful people will help here, as will
reading biographies of successful people. Attending one of our Seminars
can support you in this quest, also.
Study people whose behaviors and skills you wish to model.
Start
studying and modeling people that have healthy relationships.
Study people who, over a lifetime, were constantly overcoming challenges
and attaining their goals: what choices were involved?
Finally,
change your patterns for 30 days. When you brush your teeth,
use your non-dominate hand: same with combing your hair. Look for alternative
routes for commuting to your office. Go see movies that, up until now,
you would never go see. If you have always put your pants on by first
placing in your right leg, change legs!
When
you do what you have always done you will get what you have always gotten.
The object of the above exercises is to look for different patterns and
to discover what can be seen or heard or experienced when you do things
differently.
This
includes things that you already do well. Great, you know how
to do "x" in a particular way. Go learn to do it another way.
Success can breed laziness. Teach
your brain to look for new patterns. Always playing to your strengths
will leave you weak in other areas of your life. Actively
seek to discover new patterns.
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Written
by
Dr. Monte E. Wilson, III
Andrea
Higham, Editor
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