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Nine not-so-simple steps to finding your "soul-mate"

After personally watching a number of supposed "soul-mates" crash and burn, I'm a little hesitant even to use the term. Perhaps we should redefine the essence of our quest as "finding a lifetime partner" or a "life-mate."

Of one thing there's no doubt: the God given "urge-to-merge," i.e., finding a life-mate, seems to spring from the very core of our identities as human beings. Author Eckard Tolle describes thaturge this way: " The longing for wholeness-the return to oneness-manifests as male-female attraction, man's need for a woman, woman's need for a man. It is an almost irresistible urge for union with the opposite energy polarity. The root for this physical urge is a spiritual one: the longing for an end to duality, a return to the state of wholeness. Sexual union is the closest you can get to this state on the physical level. This is why it is the most deeply satisfying experience the physical realm can offer."